This morning on my way to work, I was listening to Mary J.
Grown Woman is the most fun song, and I love what it's saying...
I love being a Grown Woman...
To me being grown means handling my business,
Being responsible for myself,
Not holding anyone responsible for what ails me or goes awry in my life,
Accepting my own madness,
I had some awesome role models,
I always remember the women in my life,
They handled whatever needed to be handled, while keeping their business close to their chests,
And looking awesome while doing, and enjoying life at the same time....
Grown does not mean funless...by any means...
My mom had five sisters and they were there for each other in so many ways,
They had open hearts, arms and ears when it was necessary,
But they also respected the other's right to not talk when it was mandatory,
That is my way,
I have a few confidantes,
But the women I value most are those who know when to pull you close,
Or allow you to remain removed if that is what sustains you...
No digging, prying or peeping....
That is about the Grownness,
To really grow, there are times when we have to pray about it, then work it out from a private place,
There have been times at work, online and other places,
When I have literally cringed when someone is spilling all,
I want to ask if they really know what they are doing,
However I usually mind my own grown business,
Because I know that usually that is coming from a place of neediness,
That usually goes away with maturity,
When we become real grown, we know that mostly no one can do things for us,
That while advice might work, every situation is a different one and what works for the goose,
Probably want work for the chicken...
Sometimes I ask myself what is going on that so many people remain so 'Young' in how they react to things,
And I am left to conclude that sometimes in this youth obsessed culture when we do everything we can, not to Age outwardly, that it might be the same mindset that keeps us from maturing inwardly...
Not sure, just thinking out loud...
But I would say to anyone who is hanging onto YOUNG at the cost of becoming GROWN,,,
Don't Be Skurred...
Because embracing the woman in you and owning onesself and not holding anyone accountable but that self is a wonderful, delightful way to live....it's FREEDOM!
Love and Blessings,
Angelia Vernon Menchan
Angelia Vernon Menchan is an author, publisher and public speaker who owns two publishing companies, MAMM Productions and Honorable Menchan Media. Mrs. Menchan is also a Budget Officer and former Job Corps Counselor. To date she has published eighteen books of her own work, both fiction and non-fiction and more than forty ebook novellas on amazon.com. You can access her bibliography on www.amazon.com search words: Angelia Vernon Menchan
Menchan has also published the work of seven other authors to date and has several publishing projects upcoming in 2013 to include a children's book, Little Wing by biologist, Erin Gawera, Honorable Menchan Poets 2013 by Dictator, Genesis and Creammy Mocha and a breast cancer memoir by Lena Jordan.
She is becoming a sought after speaker for young women audiences because she speaks honestly, straight and open to the issues that plague them such as teen pregnancy, the importance of education and making life impacting choices.
Kim Floyd of Real Mommies Read, a part of the Spartanburg Public Library says:
Angelia's ability to help our teen moms see themselves as she did was a special gift. She instilled within them a desire to make better choices, take control of their bodies and their lives. They realized their pasts didn't have to determine their futures. Angelia let them know their worth.
Mrs. Menchan is available for speaking engagements; book signings and discussions. She resides in Jacksonville, Florida with her husband and graphic designer, Maurice Menchan
Phone numbers: 904 714 2272 904 303 2679